Your perception creates your experience!
“It is a bubble into which we are placed at the moment of
our birth. At first, the bubble is open, but then it begins to
close until it has sealed us in. That bubble is OUR
PERCEPTION. We live inside that bubble all our lives. And
what we witness on its round walls is our own reflection.”
—Carlos Castaneda ~ Tales of Power
Facts:
We all have difficult experiences that change what we believe about ourselves and the world around us. This accumulation of events becomes your PERCEPTION and outlook on yourself and your surroundings.
Have you ever noticed how two people can have completely different experiences of the same event? The reason is that our perception shapes our experience. Perception is essentially the way we interpret and make sense of the world around us. It plays a significant role in creating our experiences and can impact our behavior and emotions.
“You experience things based on how you
perceive them.”
Where does our perception come from?
I’ve discovered that perception is a complex process that develops gradually over time, starting from infancy. During childhood, our perception is shaped by a variety of factors, including genetics, environmental influences, and social experiences. Infants begin to develop their sensory abilities shortly after birth, and as they grow and mature, they become more adept at interpreting and processing the sensory information they receive. Social experiences also play an important role in shaping perception during childhood. Children learn to interpret and make sense of their surroundings through interactions with caregivers and other people in their environment. As children become more independent and begin to explore the world on their own, their perception continues to evolve and become more sophisticated. Ultimately, the development of perception is a lifelong process, with ongoing opportunities for growth and refinement.
— Your perception shapes your reality.
The way you perceive the world around you creates your reality. If you believe that the world is a kind and loving place, you are likely to experience kindness and love from others. However, if you believe that the world is hostile and uncaring, you are likely to experience rejection and indifference.
— Your perception affects your emotions.
Your perception influences the way you feel about a situation. For example, if you perceive a situation as threatening, you are likely to feel anxious or afraid. However, if you perceive a situation as exciting or challenging, you may feel energized and motivated.
Please note that our emotions are closely linked to the vibration or energy frequency we emit. Positive emotions such as love, gratitude, and joy tend to produce higher frequency vibrations, while negative emotions such as fear, anger, and sadness produce lower frequency vibrations. This frequency or vibration can then determine the experiences we have as it attracts experiences that match our energetic frequency. This phenomenon is known as the Law of Attraction, which suggests that like attracts like. Therefore, by focusing on positive emotions and emitting high-frequency vibrations, we can attract positive experiences into our lives. You are completely in control of creating and recalibrating your own emotions in order to create the experience you desire. Nobody can make you feel what you’re already feeling inside. External influences or people cannot force you to experience emotions that you already have within yourself. In other words, your internal emotions are your own, and they are not solely determined or controlled by external factors. Take responsibility for your emotions and reclaim your power! Whenever you feel a certain way in any situation, know that the root cause of your emotions is rarely the person in front of you. While they may trigger a particular feeling, it’s more likely that the emotion is buried deep in your subconscious and needs attention. So, take a deeper look at what you’re feeling and get to the root of it. Take it as an opportunity.
— Your perception determines your behavior.
The way we perceive things affects the way we act in many ways. As an example, if we perceive a situation as threatening, we may become defensive or fearful, and our behavior reflects our perception based on previous experiences. Alternatively, when we view a situation as an opportunity, our behavior may reflect this outlook and different neuro pathways may be formed.
Our perception can also impact our motivation, decision-making, and overall attitude. If we perceive a task as challenging but worthwhile, we may be more motivated to complete it. Our motivation to complete a task may diminish if we perceive it as unimportant or too difficult. Perception can also affect our decision-making by influencing how we weigh options and assess risk. Additionally, how we perceive others and how we approach challenges can influence our attitude.
In summary, our perception significantly affects our behavior by influencing our emotions, motivation, decision-making, and attitude. By being aware of our perception and how it affects our behavior, we can better understand and manage our actions and reactions in various situations. To determine whether your actions and reactions are based on you now or if you are reacting from an old pattern, pay attention to how you feel and encourage your child to do the same very early on. Don’t be afraid to ask them how they feel!
— Your perception affects your relationships.
As we have previously learned, a person’s identity is shaped by their beliefs, experiences, and values. The way in which we interact with and experience others is often influenced by our own subconscious. When we feel triggered by someone, it is important to reflect and ask ourselves what it is in us that is being provoked by their actions. It is crucial to understand that our perception of a situation may not align with how someone else would perceive the same experience as they may have a completely different reaction and may not even realize the internal process occurring within us.
With that in mind, it is essential to approach such situations with curiosity and self-awareness. We can ask ourselves questions such as: What can I learn from this person? What do they reflect back to me? How do I feel challenged or enlightened by this person? How can I free this part of myself? Each individual views the world through their own unique lens, and it is important to respect and acknowledge the diversity of perspectives and experiences.
By recognizing and honoring each individual’s perception in our relationships and communities, we can foster greater empathy, understanding, and cooperation. I understand where you are coming from!
Remember that your perception is within your control, and you have the power to shape your reality in a way that aligns with your values and goals.
Identifying your core values is the first crucial step in creating a robust belief system. It is important to create your own perspective now, independent of what may have happened in your childhood. By integrating these conversations into your home with your spouse and children, and giving them the opportunity to reflect on their own values, you will be better equipped to balance family life.
It’s worth noting that your core values are likely to evolve throughout your life, and that is the beauty of it. Keeping the conversation about values ongoing at home is vital.
Consider asking yourself and your loved ones questions like: What do you believe in? What best represents you? How do you expect to be treated in a relationship? How do you show up for yourself? What do you appreciate about your friends and family?
Engaging in these conversations and exploring your core values can lead to deeper self-awareness and strengthen your family relationships.
— Core values: what are they?
Core values refer to the beliefs, principles, or standards that guide the behavior, decisions, and actions of an individual. These values serve as a moral compass, helping individuals navigate challenges and make choices that are in alignment with their beliefs and goals. Core values encompass a range of attributes, such as honesty, integrity, respect, accountability, empathy, teamwork, innovation, and social responsibility, among others. They form the foundation upon which individuals and organizations build their culture, relationships, and ultimately, their success.
Below is a short list of core values for you to consider when defining your top five values.
1. Loyalty
2. Spirituality
3. Humility
4. Compassion
5. Honesty
6. Kindness
7. Integrity
8. Selflessness
9. Determination 10. Generosity
11. Courage
12. Tolerance
13. Trustworthiness 14. Compassion
15. Growth
16. Appreciation 17. Empathy
18. Respect
19. Wisdom
— Aurora
